“Don’t tell people your goals”

Is this a good idea?

Or do I need people to hold me accountable?

I suspect the answer is, “A little from column A, and a little from column B.”

Are there positive people in your life who will help and support you? Tell them.

The crabs can stay in the dark. They’ll find out what your goals were when you accomplish them.

Get help

Most guys are bad at asking for help.

I’m horrible at it. I could win prizes for being bad at asking for help, if such a thing existed.

That’s no good.

We all know we can’t do it all ourselves. But we think asking for help is weak.

Unless you’re moving. No one thinks they should have to move all their stuff themselves, for some reason. Why is that the exception?

There’s nothing weak about needing help. Most people are happy to help. Especially the people who care about you. Sometimes they’ll even try to help without being asked. That’s how much they want to help.

I’m writing this to myself. And you.

Put your pride down. Let people know where you need their help.

I know you don’t want to be a burden. I don’t. No one does.

Are your loved ones a burden to you? Sure they are.

Do you mind shouldering that burden. Probably not, unless they’re constantly bugging you.

So why shouldn’t you be okay being a bit of a burden to them? Don’t expect them to carry all the weight, but let them help.

You won’t get very far on your own.

What is success?

Success implies greatness. Or at least above-averageness.

That doesn’t have to mean financial success.

It could mean you’ve raised great kids.

Or you have a great marriage.

Or that you’ve inspired others to be great.

Maybe you’ve quietly made a lot of little contributions to other people’s lives.

Ultimately, I think success means living your dream life, and helping others live theirs.