“Don’t tell people your goals”

Is this a good idea?

Or do I need people to hold me accountable?

I suspect the answer is, “A little from column A, and a little from column B.”

Are there positive people in your life who will help and support you? Tell them.

The crabs can stay in the dark. They’ll find out what your goals were when you accomplish them.

One week since caffeine

Wednesday, May 20th.

That was when I had my last Mountain Dew.

The only day I had a major headache was last Friday, two days later.

Apart from that, the only symptoms I’ve noticed have been feeling extra tired. I’ve been sleeping ten hours or more most nights.

My withdrawal symptoms may be relatively minor because I’ve been going easy on myself. I’ve been letting myself have soda every day, just not caffeine.

If you’re thinking of quitting caffeine, I’d recommend doing it at a time when you can sleep in every day, especially for the first week or so.

I still don’t feel very energetic, but it’s only been a week. I do feel less irritable, though.

Overall, I’m glad I quit.

I’ll be even more glad when I stop feeling so tired.

Laughter, the Best Medicine

It really is.

Especially if you’re in a bad mood.

Having trouble raising your spirits?

Try watching some stand-up comedy.

Or a sketch by Studio C.

Or one by JK! Studios.

One not enough to get a laugh out of you? Keep watching. Watch until you laugh out loud.

Or read some jokes. Find some funny memes.

Or find someone to tickle you.

Second Day Caffeine-Free

I let myself sleep in this morning.

Slept longer than usual, but that’s not surprising.

I did have a headache. It’s mostly gone now.

Thought about getting a small Mountain Dew, but decided against it. I want to get through the withdrawals as soon as possible.

I just want to feel normal.

No More Caffeine

I’ve quit caffeine more times than you can shake a stick at.

For days, weeks, months even.

Then, one day, I’ll feel it.

Maybe I stayed up too late the night before.

Maybe I needed to get up extra early.

I’ll see a vending machine. Or a gas station.

“Just one won’t hurt.”

Right?

A few weeks ago I saw this:

Caffeine doesn’t give you energy, it just keeps you alert.

I knew that already.

I didn’t know it triggered the release of dopamine and cortisol.

Dopamine addiction is the reason the reason it’s so hard to just quit porn.

Cortisol is also known as “the stress hormone”. Elevated cortisol levels make it harder to lose weight.

I don’t drink coffee. It’s against the Word of Wisdom. It’s also gross.

Almost all of my caffeine has come from Mountain Dew.

So has a lot of my weight.

So by continuing to drink this stuff, not only have I made myself fat. I’ve also been causing myself extra stress, making it harder to lose weight, making myself irritable, AND making it harder to quit porn and get to the Temple.

If that’s not reason enough to quit, I don’t know what is.

Another Definition of Success

In “The Strangest Secret”, Earl Nightingale gives his definition of success:

Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.

You don’t need piles of money.

Lots of achievements.

A degree. Or a house. Or a car.

You just need to set a worthy goal, and steadily work toward making it a reality.

Do that, and you’re a success.

Success Club

Cash Flow Club. Toastmasters.

Those aren’t an option right now.

There are other options, though.

I’ve created a Facebook Group.

I call it “Success Club“.

Maybe someone will suggest a better name.

Please join. I’d like this to be a thriving community.

How Are You Using Your Time?

“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo.
“So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”

J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

I’m not as productive as I’d like to be. Who is?

I spend a good amount of time reading.

And I’ve been writing. Drawing. Painting.

I go for the occasional walk.

Pretty productive.

I’ve also spent quite a bit of time with my boys. That’s always good.

Not all my time is spent so wisely, though.

I spend hours sitting and thinking.

Spending too much time in the past.

It’s good to learn from the past.

But not to live there.

I need to get out and do more.

Relapse

I relapsed a couple of days ago.

I’ve been in a funk ever since.

It had been about a week since my last relapse. I was feeling pretty good.

I’m not sure exactly what happened. Maybe I gave the thought too much attention.

Hopefully I’ll feel better by Monday.

Have a good weekend.

Fear of Discomfort?

Why is it so hard to quit things I know are bad for me?

Maybe just because I don’t want to be uncomfortable.

I know if I ever want to achieve anything worthwhile, I’m going to have to leave my comfort zone.

But it’s so comfortable there!

I’ve let my body call the shots for too long.

It’s time to put my spirit in charge.