In his speech, “The Strangest Secret”, Earl Nightingale issues a challenge. He says to keep a card in your pocket for a month. On one side should be your goal for that month, and on the other side should be Matthew 7:7-8:
Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
Look at the card several times a day, to remind yourself of your goal.
My goal this month is, “Only Say Positive Things.”
I underestimated how difficult this would be.
I have a tendency to complain. Quite a bit.
It’s hard to feel good about life when you complain so much.
It’s also hard to believe it will get better.
The month is still young, though.
I intend to achieve my goal, even if it takes several months.
It will be easier to achieve my other goals once I do.
You can’t control which thoughts come into your head. But you can choose which thoughts to entertain.
Dismiss the bad ones.
Focus on the good ones.
What you focus on expands.
Most people focus on the negative.
Changing your focus is hard. Some of us need professional help to change. That’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Leave reminders for yourself. Sticky notes. Photos. Anything that helps you remember what’s good in your life.
One thing I like to do is make a game of it. Especially when I get annoyed in traffic. I’ll ask myself what I’m grateful for, and start making a list. I try to not just list things, but to actually feel gratitude for each thing. It always helps. Sometimes I get really emotional.
I’m not perfect at this. I forget to do it.
I still get mad. I still yell at my kids.
I don’t stay mad as long, though. My kids are better off.