“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
I’m not as productive as I’d like to be. Who is?
I spend a good amount of time reading.
And I’ve been writing. Drawing. Painting.
I go for the occasional walk.
I’ve also spent quite a bit of time with my boys. That’s always good.
You can’t control which thoughts come into your head. But you can choose which thoughts to entertain.
Dismiss the bad ones.
Focus on the good ones.
What you focus on expands.
Most people focus on the negative.
Changing your focus is hard. Some of us need professional help to change. That’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Leave reminders for yourself. Sticky notes. Photos. Anything that helps you remember what’s good in your life.
One thing I like to do is make a game of it. Especially when I get annoyed in traffic. I’ll ask myself what I’m grateful for, and start making a list. I try to not just list things, but to actually feel gratitude for each thing. It always helps. Sometimes I get really emotional.
I’m not perfect at this. I forget to do it.
I still get mad. I still yell at my kids.
I don’t stay mad as long, though. My kids are better off.